Selfies. You know them right or have taken one yourself?
I’ve started taking selfies of late (more like bombing people’s selfies) and I must say it’s a cool experience, especially when you are with a group of people. Anyways that’s not the point of my post so let me get straight to the point.
There’s one reason selfies are so beautiful: that’s because no one takes (or at least posts) a sad selfie. Go through your BBM updates, your Instagram feed and your Facebook wall and you discover that there is a bigger chance that you’ll see a gorilla on your street than you’ll find a sad selfie on any of these platforms. But why is that? Because as humans, we tend to show our best face to the world; It’s just in our nature. And selfies are just another expression of this wonderful nature of ours. It’s why you won’t find a photo on Instagram with a crying face captioned She broke my heart. And even when you find a post with a caption like Malaria things, the face in the selfie always manages to exude some form of superhuman confidence.
So why am I telling you about selfies?
We tend to compare ourselves with others based on what we see in their lives. Most of what we see is what we are allowed to see, and like the selfie, it usually is good-looking. That job, that relationship, that runs, that affair, that car etc. These things and more are presented to us on a daily basis and often what we see is the smiling selfie version. And because no one takes a sad selfie, you may not get to see or hear of the recent quarrel or the work-life imbalance or the chronic illness or the piled up credit card debts. Once outside, everyone applies makeup and shows off their latest this or that, making you wish you were in their shoes.
Am I saying every good thing you see out there has an issue? Definitely not! There are people in stable relationships with good jobs and smiling accounts. But what I’m trying to pass across here is that we should be careful when comparing ourselves with other people so we don’t get unnecessarily frustrated. Everyone has their fair share of challenges and unless you’re a confidant, you may never get to know what they are passing through. So when next you feel a pang of envy when admiring your friend’s new ride, first remember that no one takes a sad selfie so that, in Frank Donga’s words, you don’t tight the world to your chest.
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I am a Medical Doctor, Brand Strategist and the Author of Musings of an Analytical Mind. I love to challenge conventional thinking and am a firm believer in the coexistence of aesthetics and quality. Follow me on Twitter – @ifeodedere