Growing up in our societies, we are taught two basic qualities from which every other quality would derive their classification. They are ‘Good’ and ‘Evil’.
Part of what we are taught includes the belief that the line separating good from evil is a very distinct one with clearly spelt out differences. Therefore, a bad person can only exhibit bad qualities. Any deviation from this will be viewed with suspicion. This same mindset is what this article seeks to address with respect to the daughters of eve.
Without giving examples, attractive women have been known to cause numerous heartbreaks for well-meaning men and it is no news that women with visual prowess date numerous men –none unaware of the other’s existence – using them as a means for making money. From these experiences have risen the generalization that pretty women cannot make good life partners.
We have therefore come to associate beauty with vice. Beauty rather than inspire attraction and pursuit, elicits a warningsignal in the subconscious of the intended ‘targets’ and their concerned relatives. Expressions of concern such as ‘be careful’ and its cynical sibling ‘they are all the same’ begin to issue out of the mouth of worried relatives. The only people permitted to venture into such dangerous business are the ‘bad guys’ or ‘playboys’. We just do not think it possible that a beautiful woman can possess virtuous qualities because we have been trained to see both qualities as mutually exclusive (just the same way we think of good and evil as not being able to coexist in the same entity).
Two questions therefore arise from this discourse: (1): Are all beautiful women bad? (2): Who should marry the beautiful woman? I will attempt to answer the first.
In most societies, the pretty woman by virtue of their unusual beauty is condemned to a life of perpetual moral scrutiny. Even when it is not overtly stated, many people believe deep within that the woman of extreme beauty cannot make a good wife or keep a healthy home. Proponents of this school of thought theorize that her unusual beauty will be a continual cause of attraction to men of easy virtue thereby increasing the likelihood of having an extra-marital affair. Many examples abound in real life (and in 3-D if I must add) to support these theories.
At birth, the beautiful girl is not any more evil than her other female counterparts are. However, by virtue of her beauty, she is exposed to relationships earlier than the rest of her peers and in the process comes to an astonishing discovery of the power that beauty commands. For her, this knowledge could be coming at a level of maturity incapable of handling such privileged information. In other cases, it is just sheer human nature to capitalize on the strengths (and weaknesses) that such natural endowment provides.
However, beyond this, the beautiful girl is not in any way more disadvantaged in terms of character than her female peers are. Eventually, almost every girl will get into a relationship and will get to realize and possibly employ the power of her natural (and psychological) endowments on the male folk.
We also must not forget that parental and societal influences play a role in determining the overall character of a person –whether beautiful or not. Moreover, the fact remains that marital problems are not confined to the home of the beautiful woman alone. As many plain women engage in acts of adultery as beautiful women. Nevertheless, our societies have decided to focus on that for which at least, a rational explanation can be provided – the misdemeanors of the beautiful woman.
It is no more wrong to say that ALL beautiful women are of easy virtue than to say that being a Nigerian automatically makes you a vendor of spam emails. Ask yourself, what you would do if your only child were a pretty girl: will you throw her away or ask men not to marry her?
I am a Medical Doctor, Brand Strategist and the Author of Musings of an Analytical Mind. I love to challenge conventional thinking and am a firm believer in the coexistence of aesthetics and quality. Follow me @ifeodedere on Twitter.